Monday-Monday Can You Say Resiliency?

Posted at May 13, 2013 3:00 am

My fourteen-year-old granddaughter just left with her mother. They stopped by on the way to school to let us see her brand new smile. Today was a big day for her. The braces came off. Her smile was blinding and beautiful.

She’s due a good day. It’s been quite a year for her. While at volleyball practice, her hamstring snapped off a one inch chunk of bone from her hip. Ten weeks later, after hobbling around on crutches and weeks of physical therapy, she’d managed to keep her grades up and herself on the head master’s list.

Here’s the picture I received the day the doctor released her. She was ready to rejoin the team.Baby release day

 

 

 

A week later, she bent two fingers sideways and missed another week.

All that was bad enough, but a few days after she started practicing with the team, she was hit in the temple by a ball. Yep. Slight concussion. She couldn’t play until she‘d passed a series of tests at the doctor’s office.

A lot of time had passed. The team had formed, gotten used to each others strengths and weaknesses. Which meant she had to start from zero with one game left to play. An important game at that. This was the team’s last chance to qualify for the national finals.

winning team bid won 5-5-13

Would she get to play? Would she contribute? Would this group of fourteen-year-old girls welcome her back?

I’m happy to answer yes to those questions. Not that she played all the time, but she played and played her heart out. Her hits were spectacular. (I wouldn’t want that ball hitting me) And most if not all of the girls embraced her as one of them. The team won first place in the tournament and will play in the national finals!

So why am I telling you this? Other than the fact I’m incredibly proud of her? Because of her resiliency. Her ability to face and deal with setbacks. To keep her head up when it seemed nothing would go right. I am awe struck by her determination and spirit.

Our young people have this incredible ability to bounce back from crisis. They have this innate ability to handle the up and downs of life, the disappointments, and even heartbreaks that we grownups would deem catastrophic.

Anybody know where that resiliency is stored? Is there a repository where I, now that I’m an adult, can go get a refill? I can’t speak for you, but I could use a double dose.

 

 

40 Comments

40 responses to “Monday-Monday Can You Say Resiliency?”

  1. Donna says:

    This is a great thing!! We can do the same !!!
    I hope!! It is the mind over matter!!
    Positive thinking!!! Never stop!!!! We, as we get older, have to push even harder!!! I could use a double dose myself!!! Smile and keep trying!!!
    Donna

  2. gonna magic you some across the ocean Jerrie. But deep down I know she takes it off someone….

  3. Congrats to the “Kid” I know how much this meant to her. As for the resiliency, All I have to say is if you find the well, send me the directions, I could use some myself.
    {{{{HUGS}}}}

  4. Vonnie Davis says:

    Part of her resiliency comes from her fantastic support system. We all need a dose of “oh, honey, I’m so sorry this happened” and I’m sure her family provided a loving dose of exactly what she needed to hear. This foundation of bouncing back will serve her well in life because life does have a way of eating at our souls. Yay her! I bet her smile is dazzling!!!

    • Vonnie Davis says:

      P.S. And aren’t grandchildren the greatest??? We learn so much from them and the wonderment they exude about a world we so often look at with worn and jaded eyes.

    • Jerrie says:

      Vonnie, thank you for coming by. She has a great mom and dad. I tend to be a bit partial to her mother. 🙂 She’s a way better mother than I ever was and she supported my granddaughter through all of the ups and downs. She can’t stop smiling now that the braces are gone!

  5. Maddy says:

    Good genes and good parenting play a part I’m sure, but tapping into that resiliency is fabulous.

  6. I imagine your granddaughter wasn’t nearly as worried as you and your daughter. She knows she has a strong team and family at her back. Kudos to you and your daughter for raising a strong and brave woman. I predict she’ll do great things in the future.

    • Jerrie says:

      Sandra, you’re so right. Her mom and dad both were super supportive but we all worried more than she did. She took it in stride. Thanks for commenting.

  7. Jackie P says:

    You brag way too much…through most of this past year, I wanted to kill something! Of course, I couldn’t let my little energizer bunny know :/ This kiddo is the glue that keeps me sane most of the time…she is wise way beyond her years. She has a fire inside that we have to stoke periodically but she has a heart of gold and has taught us a thing or two along the way. And y’all are correct, I have a wonderful support system myself…a wonderful mother and father. I could ask for no one or nothing better.

  8. Jackie P says:

    Stop by Jerrie’s Monday-Monday Blog** Can You Say Resiliency? http://www.jerriealexander.com/monday-monday-the-resiliency-of-a-teenager/ … via @JerrieAlexander

  9. Made me cry, Jerrie. I’m so happy for “the Kid.” I remember well when my braces came off and when one of my daughter’s came off. A spectacular day.
    From what I’ve read about resilienscy (sp?), it is something inate. Kids from great homes have it. Natch. But kids whose homelife is the worst, sometimes overcome the odds. I think each of us has that spark that we can dig down and access. Difficult? Absolutely. Easier with a good support system? Absolutely. Late for eye doc. Bye

    • Jerrie says:

      Marsha, she had the biggest smile in town!! Thank you for coming by!

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  10. I wanted to add something else, but had to get to the eye doctor. Every time we overcome a handicap or we perservere in a difficult situation, we beome stronger for the next time. It’s liike exercising a muscle. It aches when we do something we haven’t before or not in a long time, but the next time, it’s a little easier. So “the Kid” got a lot of exercise this year and has come out way stronger on the other side. It will be fun to see “All the places she will go.”

  11. Hey Jerrie, where does your grand daughter play? My daughter plays 16U volleyball for the Markham Stingers (in Ontario, Canada). We just had our Nationals last weekend. The girls lost in the quarter finals, but my daughter was approached by her first university scout. (if you are in the US, scouting happens more often down there, so it was a big deal for my daughter and I.)

    • Jerrie says:

      Charlotte, she’s 14 and plays for Texas Image in Arlington. Her national finals will be at the Dallas Convention Center the last weekend in June. It’s four days of squeaking tennis shoes and what seems like a million teenagers. Great fun.

      Thanks for stopping by and commenting!

  12. Barb Han says:

    I love this post! We all need to put on our big girl panties and keep plugging away from time to time, don’t we!

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